Asperger’s Mom’s Courageous Note
Note from Shakta:
Those who attend the Yoga for children with ADHD and Autism course write a few paragraphs about how they are using what they learned, how it changed the way they work with children and any internal transformation they wish to share. Amy Goldenburg generously allowed us to reprint her profound and personal note here. Thank you Amy for your insight and courage to grow. Thank you to ALL parents and teachers of these puzzling and amazing children!
“I’m sorry this is so late. Because of my tardiness I had written it off, but its incompletion continued to nag at me. There are many reasons and some excuses for the tardiness. The short version is sometimes when you make the right changes in your life things get worse before they get better. We’re finally on the better side of that and I don’t think I had the words to express the changes until now. Max, my 4.5 year old gifted son with Aspergers, is no longer raging. His gifts are beginning to outshine his Aspergers just as they did when he was a baby and toddler when his world was smaller and needs were more easily met. Max is now relaxed, joyful, engaging, thoughtful and all-around delightful! He is the light who guides my way!
When I signed up for the class, my hope was to create a home yoga practice for myself and my son, that we could maintain. I put together a routine. However, (for now) we both still need external structure to maintain our schedules. I continue to work on that and look for other ways to incorporate yoga into everyday activities. I continue to seek classes for myself, but Max has not been ready to attend. I’m working on a way for Max to attend a new school over the summer that incorporates OT, ABA, and Yoga into their daily education plan. They also have a sensory room in addition to their academic classrooms. It is my hope to join the school’s leadership team and help with the expansion of the school and services.
I am surprised at how much I learned about myself from the training. You gave me a way to truly manage stress in the moment even in extreme circumstances. Holding the positive space for the person in crisis has become a central pillar in working with my ASD child and learning to forgive myself. It has made me more patient and forgiving of others, which were specific goals for myself that always seemed just out of my reach before. I had been so focused on helping Max that I had lost sight of the most important thing I could do … self-care. Before the workshop, I didn’t realize how plagued I have been by my own sensory issues and how much anxiety they create. I am using many of the sensory management techniques on myself daily. I am also keenly aware of my son’s sensory needs in the moment and we now have countless tools to aid us.
[Shakta and Allison] have truly affected my life and my family in a profound way that I haven’t the words to express. My family’s tree is riddled with gifted Aspies who have struggled with these same challenges, leaving each generation to wonder “What’s wrong with me?”. This workshop forever enlightened me about my own AS experience and empowered me with the tools to affect positive change for myself and future generations. I now feel equipped and strive to teach my son through modeling, managing senses and being emotionally positive and present. I cannot thank you enough for your guidance!
Happy Autism Awareness Month!
Amy Goldenburg, PHR